Posted by Lee in HBF as he is a happy bachelor.
For the past 3 months I have been staying with relatives in Phoenix. They are retired, middle class, 64. She a lifelong homemaker, he a machinist. These people have welcomed me into their home and let me stay here as I prepare to leave the USA. Very cool relatives of mine, we have a good relationship and get along well.
The complex they live in is a standard 55+ place in PHX. Monday at noon, jam session. Tuesday and Thursdays Poker Nights, Wed Bridge, Friday Ice Cream Socials. Best case scenario for marrying a woman in the US. Had 2 kids, 3 grand kids, they live within 30 minute drive. Not divorced, together for 36 years.
Now for the downside:
This is the most dull and boring existence I could ever create, if that was my goal. They haven’t had sex in over a decade and she says “He WISHES he’s been getting it all these years!!!”. Food has replaced emotion, life, love, sex, excitement and adventure. Television rounds out the remainder of their spare time.
Get up at 8am
Breakfast and coffee
He goes off to work.
She does chores to 11am.
Turns on TV watches it until 4pm
He gets home at 6pm
Dinner to 7:30
Watch TV to 10:30
He goes to bed first
She watches TV until he falls asleep
She goes to bed.
Do not retire to a complex with other old people. The hormones and pheromones will have your body’s’ biology getting in synch with theirs, and you will begin to age also. Only spend time around young people if you want to stay young.
I find the excess of time to be maddening. I need something to do for a good 12 hours a day and watching television (and lately, being on the internet) simply isn’t good enough. Education, classes, work is needed.
I have realised that retirement as a Goal, those Golden Years when you don’t have to work, it’s not enjoyable. Not for me. Not fun, at all. Maybe if I had worked 30 years as a manual laborer and literally just wanted to sit down, relax and rest, then I would like it. But I haven’t, and I don’t.
On the other hand too much work isn’t great either.
I am looking to strike a balance, maybe 9 months work 3 months off per year. It has taken me 7 months to decompress from the job I left. 7 months for 42 months of work equals one month off for each 6 months of work. I will err on the side of relaxation. 9 on 3 off.
This week I am off to Mexico, getting a place of my own, going to live there for 4 months or more. Work there for ESL, then off to another place.